What to Wear
What to Wear to Your Photo Session (A Real Guide for Real People)
By Rob Owens | Rob Owens Photography | Hampton Roads, VA
One of the most common things I hear from clients before a session is some version of "I have no idea what to wear."
And honestly? That makes total sense. There's a lot of conflicting advice out there. Pinterest boards can be overwhelming. And nobody wants to show up to their session and feel like they made the wrong call.
So here's what I know from being behind the camera for a long time, combined with what the best photographers and stylists across the country agree on. I've broken it down by session type so you can find exactly what you're looking for.
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Family Photos
1. Start with One Person and Build from There
The easiest way to plan family outfits is to start with one person's outfit, usually mom's, and build everyone else around it. Pick something she loves and feels great in first. Then pull 2 or 3 colors from that outfit and use those as your palette for the rest of the family.
This takes a lot of the guesswork out of it. You're not trying to dress five people from scratch. You're coordinating around something that's already working.
2. Coordinate, Don't Match
Here's the thing about matching: it tends to look stiff. When everyone is in the exact same color, it looks more like a uniform than a family. Coordinating is different. It means everyone is working within the same color family, but wearing their own version of it.
Think navy, cream, and a warm tan. One person in navy pants and a cream top. Someone else in a tan dress. The kids in muted blues and creams. Everyone looks connected without looking like a catalog.
3. Colors That Photograph Well
Stick to muted, earthy tones. Soft blues, warm creams, forest greens, rust, sage, and dusty pinks are all beautiful in photos. Navy and charcoal are classics that work in every season.
What to avoid: neon anything, hot pink, and bright orange. These colors can cast strange tones onto skin in photos and pull attention away from the people wearing them. Thin stripes and busy prints have the same effect. Your eye goes to the pattern instead of the person.
No logos or brand graphics either. They date photos instantly and compete with everything else in the frame.
4. Comfort Is Not Optional, Especially with Kids
If your kids are uncomfortable, it shows. Scratchy fabrics, shoes that are too tight, or outfits they have never worn before all lead to fidgeting and meltdowns. Have them wear their outfits around the house for a little while before the session. They'll be more relaxed and so will you.
The same goes for everyone. If you are tugging at your top or adjusting your waistband every five minutes, that tension comes through in photos.
5. Give Yourself a Week
Have your outfits fully planned and ready at least a week before your session. No last-minute shopping runs, no "I think I can find something" the night before. When your outfits are handled, you walk into the session relaxed and focused on your family instead of stressed about what you're wearing.
6. Add Texture and Layers
Texture adds a lot to family photos. A linen shirt, a chunky knit sweater, a flowy skirt, a denim jacket. These things give the photos dimension and make them feel warm and lived-in. Mixing fabrics across the family creates visual interest without anyone standing out in a distracting way.
Maternity Photos
1. The Whole Point Is the Bump
Everything in a maternity session is built around celebrating where you are right now. That means your outfit should show the bump, not hide it. This is one time in your life worth fully leaning into.
Dark colors, especially black, tend to minimize the belly. That works against the whole purpose of the session. Lighter tones, soft neutrals, and warm pastels do the opposite. They draw the eye right to the bump and let it be the center of everything.
2. Long and Flowing Wins Every Time
The outfits that photograph best for maternity are typically floor-length and flowy. A long maxi dress or a flowing skirt gives you movement, elegance, and something to hold and work with during the session. It also just looks stunning in photos, especially outdoors.
Look for something fitted at or just above the belly with a skirt that flows from there. You want something that shows the shape of the bump without clinging uncomfortably underneath it.
3. Fabric Matters More Than You Think
Stiff cotton wrinkles easily and does not move well. Super clingy fabrics show every line and tend to gather awkwardly when you walk. Chiffon and tulle are the most photographed maternity fabrics for a reason. They catch light beautifully, create natural movement, and feel airy and romantic in photos.
If you are not sure what fabric your dress is, do a little test. Hold it up and let it fall. Does it flow? Does it move? That's a good sign.
4. Keep It Timeless
You are going to look back at these photos for the rest of your life. Trend-heavy looks tend to feel dated within a few years. Classic silhouettes in clean, simple colors age beautifully. When in doubt, go simple.
5. If Your Partner Is in the Photos
Match the energy. If you are in a formal gown, your partner should be dressed up too. A button-down shirt and well-fitted pants go a long way. If you are going more casual and flowy, they can be relaxed too. What you want to avoid is a big mismatch where one person looks dressed for a wedding and the other looks like they just came from the grocery store.
6. Comfortable Shoes Matter
You will be walking, standing, and moving around for the entire session. This is not the time for heels you can barely walk in. Beautiful, comfortable shoes that let you move naturally are always the right call.
Individual Portraits
1. Solid Colors and Simple Patterns
For individual portraits, clean solid colors are your best friend. They let the focus stay where it belongs, on your face, your expression, your presence. Navy, charcoal, forest green, burgundy, cream, and soft earth tones all photograph beautifully. Jewel tones are particularly flattering on most skin tones.
Stay away from large graphic prints, bold stripes, and anything very busy. The eye naturally goes to the most visually active thing in the frame. If that's your shirt, that's a problem.
2. Fit Is Everything
Clothes that fit well always look better in photos than clothes that are too loose. You do not need to wear anything tight or uncomfortable. But baggy and oversized can read as sloppy in a portrait even if it feels fine in real life. Aim for something that fits your actual body the way it is right now.
3. Think About Your Neckline
The neckline is one of the most important things to consider for a portrait because it frames your face. A tight turtleneck closes things off. A very low or very wide neckline can compete with your face for attention. A v-neck, crew neck, or open collar hit a sweet spot. They keep things clean and let your face lead.
4. Layers Add Depth
A blazer, a denim jacket, a light cardigan, a scarf. These things add dimension to a portrait that a single flat layer does not. You can also shoot with and without layers for variety in the same session.
5. Keep Accessories Simple
One or two pieces at most. A simple necklace. A watch. Stud earrings. Accessories should support the look without competing with your face. If you're not sure whether something is too much, leave it off and bring it along. You can always add it, but you can't take it off mid-session.
6. Bring Options
If you want variety from your session, bring two or three outfits. A mix of casual and more polished gives you more to work with and means you end up with photos that suit different uses. Casual for personal use and social media. Clean and polished for LinkedIn or professional use.
Tips That Apply to Everyone
Iron and steam your clothes the night before. Wrinkles show up in photos more than you expect. Taking 10 minutes the night before saves a lot of regret.
Wear your outfit before the session. Try it on, move around in it, sit down in it. You want to know it works before you're standing in front of a camera.
Dress for yourself first. Wear something that makes you feel good. When you feel good in your clothes, it shows. Confidence translates directly into better photos. Do not wear something you hate just because someone told you it photographs well.
Think about where the photos will live. If they're going above your couch, think about your home's color palette. Warm tones in an earthy living space. Cool tones in a modern one. Your photos should feel at home in your home.
When in doubt, reach out. I am always happy to help you think through outfits before your session. Send me a photo or two of what you're considering and I'll give you honest feedback. That's part of what you're booking me for.
Getting dressed for a session does not have to be stressful. Once you have a plan, it becomes one less thing to think about so you can just show up, be present, and let the photos happen.
If you have questions or you're ready to book, reach out anytime.
Rob Owens Photography serves families, individuals, and professionals across Hampton Roads, VA.
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Aperture : part of the Learn your Camera Series
# 📷 Aperture: The Eye of Your Lens (And Why the Numbers Are Backwards)
Post 2 of 6 | The Exposure Triangle Series
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In our last post, we introduced the Exposure Triangle — that beautiful, maddening trio of aperture, shutter speed, and ISO that controls everything about how your photos look. If you missed it, go read it first. We'll wait.
Back? Great. Today we're zooming in (pun absolutely intended) on aperture — arguably the most creative and misunderstood setting on your camera. Once you get this, a whole new world of photographic possibilities opens up. And yes, we're going to talk about that gorgeous blurry background everyone drools over.
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## What Even IS Aperture?
Think of your lens like a human eye. When it's dark, your pupil dilates — it opens wide to let in as much light as possible so you can see. When it's bright, your pupil constricts — it shrinks down to protect itself from being overwhelmed.
Your lens aperture works the same way. It's a physical diaphragm made of overlapping blades inside the lens that can open wide or close down, controlling how much light passes through to your sensor.
Simple enough, right? Now here's where things get a little spicy.
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## F-Stops: The Numbers That Are Intentionally Confusing (Just Kidding... Sort Of)
Aperture is measured in f-stops, written as f/1.4, f/2.8, f/8, f/16, and so on. And here's the thing that trips up almost every beginner:
Smaller number = BIGGER opening. Bigger number = SMALLER opening.
Yes, it's backwards. Yes, it's confusing. Yes, there's a mathematical reason involving the ratio of focal length to aperture diameter, but let's be honest — you don't need to care about that right now. Just tattoo this on your brain:
- f/1.8 = Very wide open = Lots of light flooding in 🌊
- f/16 = Very closed down = Just a trickle of light 💧
A helpful trick: imagine f-numbers as fractions. f/1.8 is like 1/1.8 of something — a big chunk. f/16 is like 1/16 of something — a tiny sliver. Bigger fraction, bigger opening. Boom. You've got it.
Common aperture values you'll encounter, going from wide to narrow: f/1.2, f/1.4, f/1.8, f/2, f/2.8, f/4, f/5.6, f/8, f/11, f/16, f/22. Each full stop either halves or doubles the amount of light reaching your sensor.
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## The Real Magic: Depth of Field
Aperture isn't just about controlling light — it's your primary creative control over depth of field: how much of your photo appears sharp from front to back.
Wide aperture (low f-number like f/1.8) = Shallow depth of field
Only a narrow slice of your image will be in sharp focus, while everything in front of and behind that plane melts into a soft blur. This is the "portrait look" — your subject pops sharply against a dreamy, swirling background.
Narrow aperture (high f-number like f/11 or f/16) = Deep depth of field
Almost everything in your frame — from the flowers in the foreground to the mountains in the distance — will be in sharp, crisp focus. This is the landscape photographer's best friend.
Think of it this way: wide aperture = focus on one thing, narrow aperture = focus on everything.
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## Let's Talk About Bokeh (Because Everyone Loves Bokeh)
Ah, bokeh. Say it with me: BOH-keh. It's a Japanese word that refers to the aesthetic quality of the out-of-focus areas in a photograph — those silky, smooth blurred backgrounds that make portraits look magazine-worthy.
Bokeh isn't just blur. It's beautiful blur. And you get it by shooting at a wide aperture (low f-number), getting relatively close to your subject, and having a good distance between your subject and the background.
The shape of those creamy background circles (called "bokeh balls" when you have point light sources) is actually determined by the number of aperture blades in your lens. More blades = rounder, smoother bokeh. Fewer blades = more geometric, harsh-edged circles. This is a big reason why photographers obsess over lens quality — not just sharpness, but how beautifully a lens blurs.
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## Practical Guide: When to Use What
Here's a quick cheat sheet to stick in your brain:
Wide Aperture (f/1.2 – f/2.8)
- Portrait photography — isolate your subject with beautiful background blur
- Low-light situations — let in maximum light when there isn't much available
- Creative shots where you want to emphasize one specific element
- Watch out: At very wide apertures, focusing becomes extremely precise — a tiny shift and your subject's eyes might be sharp but their nose is blurry
Mid-Range Aperture (f/4 – f/8)
- General everyday shooting
- Street photography
- Group photos (so everyone's face is in focus — no one wants to be the blurry one)
- This is also where most lenses hit their optical sweet spot — sharpest overall image quality
Narrow Aperture (f/11 – f/16)
- Landscape photography — everything sharp, front to back
- Architecture — clean, detailed shots of buildings
- Product photography when you want to show full detail
- Watch out: Going too narrow (f/22 and beyond) can actually reduce sharpness due to a phenomenon called diffraction — the light bends around the aperture blades. So narrower isn't always better!
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## One Pro Tip That Will Change Your Life
When in doubt, start at f/8. It's the "Goldilocks aperture" — not too wide, not too narrow. Your lens will likely be sharp edge-to-edge, you'll have a reasonable depth of field, and you'll have a great starting point to adjust from based on your creative vision.
From f/8, ask yourself: Do I want more background blur? Go wider. Do I need more of the scene in focus? Go narrower.
That's it. That's the whole game.
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## Coming Up Next...
Now that you understand aperture and how it controls both light and depth of field, it's time to tackle the second side of the Exposure Triangle: Shutter Speed.
In Post 3, we're diving into the wild world of time — from freezing a hummingbird mid-wingbeat to painting light trails across a night sky. If you've ever wanted to know how to capture silky waterfalls or stop a sprinting athlete mid-stride, that post is for you.
Until then, go experiment! Put your camera in Aperture Priority mode (usually labeled A or Av on your dial), and start playing with different f-numbers. Watch how the world changes when you control the eye of your lens.
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Learning your Camera
# 📸 Stop Blaming the Camera: An Introduction to the Exposure Triangle
Post 1 of 6 | The Exposure Triangle Series
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Let's be honest. We've all done it. You take what you know is going to be the greatest photo in the history of photography — perfect subject, perfect moment, perfect light — and you look at the result on your screen and it's... a blurry, dark, grainy mess. And your first instinct? "Ugh, must be my camera."
Here's the truth: your camera is not the problem. You are. (Said with love, I promise.)
The good news? Once you understand three fundamental concepts — aperture, shutter speed, and ISO — you'll stop blaming your gear and start making intentional, stunning images. Welcome to the Exposure Triangle, the holy trinity of photography that every photographer, from hobbyist to professional, lives by.
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## So... What Is Exposure?
Before we can talk about the triangle, we need to talk about exposure itself.
Exposure is simply how much light hits your camera's sensor when you take a photo. Too much light, and your image is overexposed — washed out, blindingly bright, like staring directly at the sun (don't do that, by the way). Too little light, and your image is underexposed — dark, muddy, and unpleasant to look at.
The goal is to find the Goldilocks zone: just the right amount of light to create a well-exposed image where highlights aren't blown out, shadows still hold detail, and everything looks the way your eye actually perceived it.
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## Meet the Triangle's Three Sides
The Exposure Triangle is called a triangle because it has three sides — and like any good triangle, if you change one side, everything else shifts. The three sides are:
### 📷 Aperture — The Eye of Your Lens
Aperture is the physical opening inside your lens that controls how much light gets through. Think of it like the pupil of an eye: it dilates in the dark and constricts in bright light. A wide aperture (represented by a low f-number like f/1.8) lets in a flood of light. A narrow aperture (represented by a high f-number like f/16) lets in only a trickle.
But here's where it gets interesting: aperture doesn't just control light — it also controls depth of field, meaning how much of your photo is in sharp focus. Wide aperture = dreamy blurred backgrounds. Narrow aperture = everything sharp from front to back. We'll do a full deep-dive on aperture in Post 2.
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### ⏱️ Shutter Speed — Time Is a Flat Circle (for Photographers)
Shutter speed controls how long your camera's sensor is exposed to light — literally how long the shutter stays open. A fast shutter speed (like 1/2000th of a second) freezes motion and is perfect for sports, wildlife, and hyperactive toddlers at birthday parties. A slow shutter speed (like 1/15th of a second or longer) lets in light over time, which can create beautiful silky water effects, light trails from cars at night, and — if you're not careful — camera shake that makes everything look like it was shot during an earthquake.
We'll break shutter speed all the way down in Post 3.
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### 💡 ISO — Your Sensor's Sensitivity
ISO is your camera's sensitivity to light. A low ISO (like 100 or 200) means your sensor isn't very sensitive — it needs a lot of light to produce a good image. A high ISO (like 3200 or 6400) means your sensor is amplifying whatever light it can find, which is great for dark environments but comes with a cost: noise (those ugly grainy speckles that make your photo look like it was taken through a screen door in a sandstorm).
ISO is the last resort in the exposure triangle — you adjust it when you've done everything you can with aperture and shutter speed and still need more light. Post 4 is all about ISO.
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## The Triangle in Action — It's All Connected
Here's what makes the Exposure Triangle both beautiful and occasionally maddening: every adjustment you make to one side affects the others.
Imagine you're photographing a dog running in a park. You want to freeze the motion, so you crank up your shutter speed to 1/1000th of a second. But now your image is too dark — not enough light is getting in. So you have two options:
1. Open up your aperture — let more light through the lens. But this might blur your background more than you wanted.
2. Raise your ISO — boost your sensor's sensitivity. But this might introduce grain into your photo.
See? Change one, and you're juggling the others. The skill of photography is learning to balance all three based on the creative outcome you're after.
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## A Quick Cheat Sheet to Keep in Mind
| Element | Controls | Trade-off |
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| Aperture | How much light enters the lens | Affects depth of field (blur vs. sharpness) |
| Shutter Speed | How long light hits the sensor | Affects motion (freeze vs. blur) |
| ISO | Sensor's sensitivity to light | Affects image noise/grain |
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## Why This Matters for Your Photography
Understanding the Exposure Triangle means you stop being a passenger in your own photos and start being the driver. Instead of pointing your camera and hoping for the best (and then blaming the camera when it fails), you'll know exactly which knob to turn and why.
Whether you're shooting your kid's soccer game, a stunning sunset, a cozy coffee shop, or your very photogenic cat who refuses to hold still — the Exposure Triangle is the foundation of every great shot.
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## Coming Up Next...
In Post 2, we're going deep on Aperture: f-stops, depth of field, bokeh (that gorgeous blurred background effect), and when to use each setting. It's one of the most powerful creative tools in your camera, and once you understand it, you'll wonder how you ever lived without it.
Until then, go take some photos — even bad ones. The only way to learn is to shoot!
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